By: Shayna Hillenberg, LLMSW

What does it mean to be neurodivergent?

 All brains are wired differently. According to Judy Singer, neurodiversity refers “to the diversity of all people in the context of autism spectrum disorder (ASD), and other neurological or developmental conditions such as ADHD or learning disabilities”. Instead of focusing on deficits, neurodiversity encourages concentrating on strengths.

 How can I support someone who is neurodivergent?

First start by educating yourself: By learning about the specific diagnosis, you can gain a better understanding of needs, behaviors, and communication style. 

Ask questions: By asking questions you are letting them know you are interested in understanding and want to know how you can best provide support. 

Communicate directly: Someone who is neurodiverse may communicate in ways that are different. Having direct and clear communication can help understand the individual. 

A final way to support is by staying away from judgment, respecting boundaries, and simply by being there.

Helping structure a neurodiverse brain involves forming a supportive and adaptive environment that provides for specific needs and strengths. It is important to advocate for your child to make sure they are getting the support they need at home and educationally.

 Ways you can help structure a neurodiverse brain:

1. Establish a daily schedule with consistent wake-up times, meal times, and bedtimes. Visual schedules with pictures or icons can help a child understand and anticipate what comes next.
2. Incorporate visual aids like charts, calendars, and visual timers. These can help with transitions, task management, and understanding expectations.
3. Divide activities and tasks into smaller, more manageable parts. This approach can prevent overwhelm and help children focus on one step at a time.
4. Be mindful of sensory preferences and sensitivities. Provide sensory-friendly spaces or tools (like fidget toys or noise-canceling headphones) to help them manage sensory overload.
5. Teach and practice self-regulation strategies, such as deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, or movement breaks, to help manage stress and maintain focus.
6. Allow different ways to engage with material. For example, if a child is a visual learner, use videos and diagrams
7. Use positive reinforcement to encourage desired behaviors and accomplishments. Praise, rewards, and encouragement can motivate and build confidence.
8. Create a designated space where the child can go to relax and self-soothe when feeling overwhelmed. 
9. Use clear, short, and straightforward language. Visual cues, social stories, or role-playing can help suggest difficult concepts and instructions.
10. Encourage and support the child’s interests and strengths. Engaging in activities they are passionate about can boost confidence and provide opportunities for skill development.
11. Work closely with teachers, therapists, and other professionals involved in the child’s care. Share strategies and observations to ensure consistency and support across different environments.
12. Provide opportunities for social interaction and practice social skills in a supportive environment. Social stories, role-playing, and guided interactions can help with understanding social norms and relationships.
13. Use tools like color-coded folders, labeled bins, and checklists to help with organization. Teaching organization skills early can aid in managing tasks and belongings.
14. Ensure the child has time for rest and relaxation. Downtime is important for recharging and avoiding fatigue.
15. Understand that progress may be gradual and that what works well today might need adjusting tomorrow. Patience and flexibility are crucial in finding the best strategies for each child.

If  you feel like you or somebody you care about is in need of additional support, CFSC is here for you. Please call us at 248-851-5437 to get started with supportive services.